Separation? New Year, new start?

If the Christmas holiday left you considering separation do you know what steps to take?

My name is Michelle Simpson and I’m a family law solicitor and here I will talk you through some of the things you need to consider.

A good starting point is to consider what it is you want from your separation or divorce and where would you like to see yourself in 12 months time. This can help you to focus on what you want to achieve in the long term rather than getting stuck on the immediate situation and legal processes.

Separation? Put the children first. 

The primary concern for couples with a family is often the children. Consider the impact it will have on them and if possible try to reach an agreement on childcare issues before you begin the legal proceedings.

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Most importantly, keep your children informed of the decisions that you are making for them. Try to keep them at the same school and ensure that they maintain contact with both sets of the wider family if that’s what they are used to.

Money worries.

The second biggest concern is the financial consequences of a relationship breakdown. Dividing assets may not be pleasant but you need to make sure that you will be placed in a position of security. If your children are privately educated then these costs will also need to be considered.

Sorting out pensions, shares and any jointly owned businesses can be complex and will need to be discussed with a solicitor.

Taking legal advice.

Choosing the right solicitor is important. You need someone that you can be open and honest with.

If you need advice as to where to start sorting things out then the Family Team at Chafes Hague Lambert offer free initial advice. To make an appointment call the office that is most suitable to you.

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